Reading negative news is addictive. My social media algorithm knows this well. It understands that I’m dating, and that I like to hear stories of people’s relationships. Yet instead of sharing heartfelt romances, it feeds me horror stories. My Instagram is filled with people talking about how dating apps are…

To every man reading this, if you’ve never dated a woman your own age, why? If you almost always date younger women, why? This week on Instagram, I saw a video where actress Paulina Porizkov said that most men don’t want to date a woman in her 50s or 60s. …

Get inspired by their story. — I’ve been feeling closed off from love recently. I was confused about why, and it took me a minute to figure it out. After some reflection, I realized that my social media newsfeed was giving me the same three messages on loop: Dating sucks Don’t trust your intuition in love…

Learn about “Safe Conversations” and why they are so important. — Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt are proper elders in the world of relationship coaching. They’re respectively 85 and 72 years old, and have dedicated decades of their lives to helping people communicate with love. …

What happens when you commit to each other during a pandemic? — February 5, 2020, was the first official meeting of Formation Group. It was described as a weekly gathering of people in New York City who want to deepen their relationship with themselves and each other for an entire year. Our initial Formation Group was in a lawyer’s office near Madison…

Together we can rip the issue of loneliness wide open. — December 26, 2015, was my first day living in New York City. I stood on the sidewalk and looked fondly at the dirty building that was my new home. I was an adult! I was in the East Village! This big moment, which also included me quietly singing “Welcome to…

Making friends as an adult is difficult enough without COVID. — Making friends as an adult is difficult enough without COVID. Throw in fear that human interaction will result in contracting a deadly disease and we are in a pickle, pal. A fiasco, friend. A conundrum, comrade. We need social interaction for our mental and physical health. For example, loneliness is…

“I need to talk to you about something important.” — “I need to talk to you about something important.” If hearing those words makes you break into a cold sweat, you are not alone. It can be stressful to know that someone in your life is upset— especially if it’s about something that you did. Yikes! Thankfully, you can develop…

Any book can be a sacred text. Like many people, traditional religious scriptures aren’t my jam. For example, the Bible feels too intimately wound up with a history of oppression and hate. While I think Jesus would be pissed at this behavior — like the spurning of the LGBTQIA community…